My dad has passed away for 3 months, and sometimes i cant accept the fact that he's gone. Sometimes i would cry myself to sleep, my friends does not really bother to check up on me. I don't know what to do. I'm the eldest child, and i have the bear the responsibilities as the eldest child, but how could i if im not mentally ready to handle my own father's death.
I came to see what's here...but I'd be happy to try to help. I just lost my daughter 2 weeks ago of a sudden heart attack...she was 42. I've lost my brother 4 years ago to suicide, and of course, I've lost my father to old age, as well as mother, friends, pets, and I'm becoming an old hand at death. It doesn't get easier, but you're doing the right thing. Crying yourself to sleep is what you should be doing right now, until you feel better. A big part of your heart is gone, and it will take time to fill it back up again. You will always miss your father, but the pain will not seem as acute as time goes on.
I lost my father three years ago...died peacefully...just died while eating soup. He was almost 90, but yet there is still an emptiness there in my heart. As far as being the oldest, right now, I'm the oldest in my family and here's what you do. You help your siblings, give them whatever support you can, and if you have to go home and cry, that's okay. Don't expect your friends to be there for you, because they don't understand, or maybe they can't. This is something you have to work out yourself. Me -- I rely on God. I'd be lost without Him.
My suggestion to you would be to talk with your Dad...or journal to your Dad. Get those feelings out. Yes, it will make you cry. I cried so loud I scared my four little dogs and they ran under the table. Read what you can, watch movies on grief. I had to laugh...my other daughter said she ordered grief books and they made her cry. That's what is supposed to happen.
Don't pressure yourself. Every day … just try to get through it. Every day -- it will get a little easier. Every day -- the pain might lessen.
After I lost my son, my friend, my mother in law, my best dog....I took a vacation to Canada and Alaska. I was really depressed until I met a woman who had lost almost as much as I had. She said she was just returning to life after three years. That was in 2014. I don't want to lose another four years of depression...even though I just lost several friends and a daughter. I would rather go through the pain than slip into the nothingness....but this is a choice we have to make for ourselves...a choice you have to make. If you choose to live and go forward, and work on your grief, it will be painful. But it will always be painful. It's just if you put a lot of work into it...the pain won't last as long. It's similar to ripping off a bandaid quickly or peeling it very slowly.
my beautiful died of massive, multiple heart attacks. My husband has had many and yet they brought him back. I still hear her voice, see her face, miss her every day, but I have started the slow climb upward because I have children and grandchildren that need me. I am journaling and talking to her.
I am intuitive...and I think that the pain for you comes from now addressing issues with your father and being able to properly say goodbye. So do it now. Talk to him now. Say everything you need....or write it out. Write everything you need to say and than read it out loud and then rip it up or safely burn it.
I came here to see what's available for help. I'm still having trouble processing everything. I have I guess what you would call grieving attacks where I start crying and sobbing for no reason, insomnia. And it's all because I had a surgery awhile ago and threw a clot, lost over half of my lung function. Now my lungs are getting worse and are putting a strain on everything else and I have lost 20% flow in my heart. So they say I'm dying. They told me in August of 2018, that I would be lucky to have 5 years. And now with my heart condition its not looking any better. I have a therapist I see weekly. But it only helps so much.
I try to focus on the good. Which is why I guess my wife went ahead and married me despite the news LOL. But because of my condition I'm tired all the time and it's hard to much more than stand and walk a little which is a huge blow for a man that is 31.
I guess I'm just looking for some support. Some one to talk to that's going through something similar. Someone that can sympathize. Does anyone know where to look?
I came here because my dad died in July 2017 after a five-year battle with dementia. Shortly after my father’s death, there was a family estrangement initiated by my older brother over the family business. I feel like I’ve not only lost my father, but my brother as well. My mother is still alive and my heart breaks that she has to witness this. He doesn’t have much to do with my mother either. I do not believe this is any going back to where things used to be...I think he had years of anger and resentment built up and a wife who also fueled the flames. I’m just sad. I feel like I’ve experirnded so much loss. My father would be so disappointed in him. My last words to my father were, “We’ll take care of mom and we’ll take care of one another.” My brother was present. I feel so betrayed.
I'm new here lost my wife 2 month's ago we were married 29 years not only was I her husband I was her main caregiver now I'm lost, hurting, when she passed a part of me passed with her now I'm trying to find my way back to me all that time I put all I had into my wife never stopped to think about.....when the caregiving is done where do I go from here or PTSD from what I was doing to the end of her life that's why I'm here I need help to make the climb.
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Hi everyone. I’m new here. I lost my beautiful mother tragically 2 years ago. Missing her hasn’t gotten easier. I cry a lot.....usually when I’m alone (with my 2 dogs). I get so lonely for her. I know that nobody will ever love me like she did. She was taken from me and I’m so angry. She wasn’t ready to die and I certainly wasn’t nearly ready to live without her. The grief I experience resemble waves crashing on the rocks and it literally takes my breath away. Behind my smile is a broken heart. Behind my sweet demeanor is a soul that is so wounded. I need help! I’d love to chat with others who are enduring these emotions. I’m so sad, lost and lonely. Oh, she left me her beautiful home so I feel her here all the time. I live alone. I have kids.